& we hold on...

...or we walk away & let go...

day 54

as i thought about this topic more & more, & i thought i had the answer, or rather a general rule that could be applied to everyone's situation...i was wrong (close your mouth some times (not often) i can be wrong)...this is completely & utterly case by case basis...it also depends on the person (s) involved in the relationship...if both parties want to quit than you both need to walk away for the sake of hurting each other...

however i am going to give a little insight into my views (really are you surprised)...

i will say i do have a very strong philosophy about relationships that i think all people should adapt some version of it..."if you cannot give the other person what they need or deserve & you know they can't walk away, you have to be the one to let go" ...as humans one of the hardest things to do is to let go of someone (something) when we are not ready, even if that person is hurting us or they clearly not into the relationship...& most often the person not wanting to let go cannot see this, so they keep holding on...if you are the other person, & you care any amount for that person at all you need to be the one to speak up and say i am not giving you what you need & walk away from them...& then in that situation the relationship is no more...it can't be where one person is in it & the other is half-a*#...it is not fair to any one...

can a relationship recover after it has gotten the sh%$ beat out it, again it depends...both parties must be in agreement, to be honest (not one of my best characteristics), i will most likely either never trust again or have a hard time trusting that person again...as i mentioned before trust is big for me & once i trust you, i really trust you, however if that is broken, chances are that is it...

a relationship can be the greatest thing in the world, you share so many things in common & you are there for that person at the best of times & then at the worst of times...but in the same breath some of the greatest relationships can be destroyed in a blink of an eye, then you & only you determine what is worth the fight & what is worth losing...

the joys of getting older...

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