what love should look like...

"...love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud...it does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs...love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth...it always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres...love never fails." (1 CO. 13:4-8)

...over the course of my short lived life...i have seen, witnessed and been a part of love...i am no expert of that i am sure but i do believe i have a pretty good grasp of what love should look like...aside from this card i found (see below)...there are things i have been blessed to see to show me what love is...

...LOVE is loving someone even when you can't...LOVE is believing in someone when they can't believe in themselves...LOVE is silence when their are no words....LOVE is a hug, a smile, a laugh, a tear...LOVE is letting go...LOVE is holding on...LOVE is being there no matter what....LOVE is the perfect song, the perfect day, the perfect hour, IT is the perfect place to be...LOVE is finding your place & living in that place...LOVE is family & friends...LOVE is dreaming even while you are awake...LOVE is a letter...LOVE is an i'm sorry...LOVE is magic...LOVE is forgiving...LOVE is dancing...LOVE is sitting & waiting or moving & going...LOVE is patience even when they are raw...LOVE is beautiful & ugly at times...LOVE can be unexplainable; yet everything & anything you ever imagined...LOVE is nature and the sun, the moon & the stars in the sky...LOVE is taking time...LOVE is part of your every being...LOVE is an extraordinary gift...LOVE is God...LOVE is being there for the good times & sticking it out through the bad...LOVE is being there at the beginning but risking it enough to be there at the end...LOVE is saying hello but also saying good-bye...LOVE is not defined but yet felt in infinite ways...LOVE is...

...creating the fairy tale...

“If you ever find yourself in the wrong story, leave.” 

(Mo Willems, Goldilocks and the Three Dinosaurs)

...they all begin, 'once upon a time, in a far far land there lived a young princess who dreamed of world peace, labne for every meal, & one day meeting her prince charming and living among all the forest animals in peace and harmony....but alas her evil stepmother who also happened to be a wicked witch cast a spell turning the beautiful princess into a hideous being...now the princess must find a way to let the prince see past her outer looks to find her inner beauty before her evil stepmother destroys the village...of course the prince wants nothing to do with her; until one day he is trapped and the princess comes to his rescue...as she is rescuing him, he sees past her looks and into her beautiful soul; & just as the spell is about to be lifted the evil stepmother steals the princess away & is about to do away with her when the prince comes to the rescue...yadayadayada...the evil stepmother is banished from happy-ville & the princess is turned back and marries the prince & they live happily ever after...'

...for most of us we are not princesses/princes; we are us...going day & day out; hoping and praying that one day our fairy tale will come true...that someone will take notice at the most random moment and the rest will be written...that someone will see past the outer and relish in the inner...that it won't be that hard when everything is right...that the words will come out easy as if you were singing a song...that we will live happily ever after in our own fairy tale...that this idea of love is not just for him or her but it is for you...that the person that completes us will show up & our heart will recognize them and there will be no BS, no games just knowing at that moment that they are it & all the questions, all the worrying, all the nerves, all the scariness disappears & what you are left with is peace...& love & one hell of a story...

...as we are the authors to our own story...the designers of our dreams...& as a friend once told me we must also be the creator of our fairy tale...& i realize that maybe the fairy tale may not be what i once envisioned, that prince charming might be riding a bike instead of a white horse and it may take him a different route to get to me; but eventually he will get there...you just have to be willing to realize that in every fairy tale there can be several adventures and multiple detours...but as long as you are the creator, you can determine where it can go & dream of all the possibilities...

to my fairy tale & yours...God only knows what we will come up with next ;)...

the season (the day) of love -- 5 LOVE LANGUAGES...

...love is a verb.” (Gary Chapman)...


...the man i just quoted wrote a book on the 5 love languages...many of us have heard about them...many have heard one must have an idea of what they all are & maybe one necessarily does not have to be 100% full in all but those people in our life including the significant others that are placed in our life will most likely compliment your love languages...so the ones that you are 'weak' in they will be stronger and vice versa...eventually working to keep a balance in the 5 love languages...so what are they & where do you fit in...

the five love languages --
-words of affirmation
-quality time
-receiving gifts
-acts of service
-physical touch

where do your love languages rank; curious? www.5lovelanguages.com; do it you know you want to...

...so where am i...
1. quality time
2. physical touch
3. acts of service
4. words of affirmation
4. receiving gifts
(i tied the last two)...

...as many of you know i am all about people and the time we give people in our life...so i am happy that it is reflected and is one of my top love languages...the gift of time, is the best gift anyone could ever get...& not to say any of these other ones are not as important...i love & hate time...i love time because the moments that need to last can maybe hold on for one more second; just long enough to imprint the memory on your heart...and for those moments it was just you and them..but i also hate time because it slips past us & we are often caught looking back thinking if i only had more time, if i could have said one more thing...but no matter whether i love the moment or hate the time passing by, i have to think of the quality of that moment...was i engaged or was i preoccupied?...did i stop and say hold on a minute or did i rush through everything to only miss the best part?...did i find the quality in it?...was i there to just be in that moment?...

...its where my love is ; where is yours??